How To Stay Together And Avoid Break Up Letters

Nobody likes to receive a "Dear John" letter, phone call and thanks to technology; a "Dear John" text message (is that cruel or what?). The good news is there is a way to stay together and avoid getting break up letters and messages. 

Quite simply you need to work hard at your relationship and treat your partner with love and respect. Always make time for them no matter how busy your life becomes. 

We all get carried away sometimes. We can spend too much time at the office or with our children or sorting out our friend’s problems.  Meanwhile our significant other can feel neglected and this can lead them to breaking up with us.

Can you avoid this happening? Sure and it is often very easy. Becoming aware that you may be guilty of not putting your lover first will help. You can start showing them how you feel about them. Spend some quality time together and tell them how much they mean to you. Simple gestures work wonders and you don't even need to spend cash. Take the kids out for the day and let her have some time to herself. Or take him breakfast in bed. Think about things they love to do and surprise them.

Make sure you find time to compliment your other half so that they know how you feel. Often communication between the sexes can become strained and rather difficult. In fact some people say that it is like trying to have a conversation between two alien species. You need to make an effort as otherwise you could find yourself dumped in favour of someone who will.

The keys to a successful relationship are love, mutual respect and showing consideration.  No partnership will survive without all three being present. The love bit is relatively easy! Showing mutual respect should be quite simple but we often put our partners down without realizing we are doing it.  We may watch TV when they are talking to us or we could have a laugh with our friends at their expense.  We may even forget important events such as their birthday or some anniversary.

Showing consideration to others means we have to be a little less selfish. It can be difficult when you have kids or a demanding career or both to find time for yourself never mind someone else. Being a couple means finding extra time even if that necessitates setting the alarm clock for thirty minutes earlier.

Don’t confuse having a successful partnership with being a doormat. All couples argue and it is completely unnatural to expect otherwise. But it is how they argue that is important. When you do have an argument, you still need to treat your partner respectfully. Don’t use bad language or physical violence. Try to remain calm and listen to the other person’s side. Never bring up past events or disagreements.  Focus on the issue that is causing the problem today and work on resolving it. And then go and enjoy making up.

Follow these tips and you should avoid the dreaded break up letters and messages.


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