If monotony sets in, the first feelings of respect and passion that the husband felt could begin to eb. It is then replaced with a decrease of intimacy which can lead to awkward moments. Women then tend to believe that something they did must have caused their husband to feel hurt, or that maybe he has just grown bored with her over time. Confronting the husband with these types of issues will not help as it might make him withdraw even further into his shell. If you are truly concerned that he has lost the love connection between you, there are things you can do to get that relationship back on track.
Think back to when you and your husband first fell in love. There must have been other qualities about you that he fell in love with other than just your looks. As time passes we change and some of these qualities can go by the wayside and we can't change that. For example, when he first met you maybe you were a very sharp, career minded person who has changed into a more moderate thinking homemaker.
It is impossible to act like a sharp and focused career woman when you are always taking care of things at home. He might also be craving some personal space at home, a time when he can be alone and gather his thoughts, but your being there all the time does not allow that. It's OK to take some time for yourself and go out with some friends on occasion, or get involved in an activity like bowling that happens on a regular basis so that he knows your relationship has different aspects to it.
There is a verse of scripture that says, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." This verse is especially relevant in a relationship and if over time you have slowly let the care and respect you had for your husband in doing unto him as you would like him to do unto you drift away, then maybe he is reciprocating the same towards you. Therefore it would be wrong to blame him alone for the current situation and you must figure out what part you had in contributing to the loss of steam in the relationship. If the way you treated your husband is not the way you yourself would want to be treated, then it is natural that your husband might change the way he feels about you.
Sometimes with the birth of a baby, the wife focuses more of her love and care toward the baby and neglects the husbands needs, and the husband, feeling neglected, can get distracted with other things that might cause him to slowly move apart. It might take the rift becoming wide enough to cause fear of a break up before it is even noticed.
However, if the problem is noticed before serious damage to the relationship occurs, then it is possible to get the relationship back on track. You need to communicate to him how you feel, start caring for him and making him feel like he is the center of your attention again and this should get you started in the right direction of winning his love back.
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